THE author of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, makes a comparison between the bank and emotional bank accounts. As an economist I am the truth that I loved this example I have taken into account in my relationships, especially with my closest loved ones and I think the results have been worthwhile. Covey explains that all people have an emotional bank account and we with our actions we make deposits or withdrawals in that account. To the extent that you value the other, sincere praise you, you have acts of kindness, you show compassion, empathetic listening to the other, value differences and respect them, in order to detail such as women we love (and men too even when not openly displayed), make it known to the people we love that are important to us, makes that emotional bank account deposits grow emotionally. However when we discussed, heated and offend us, disqualified, destructively criticize another, we are waiting to find flaws in the behavior of the other and forget about the good, they are lodged in the emotional bank withdrawals, and may reach the point where it is both the deterioration of the relationship is completely overdrawn account and there is a closure of it in the bank emotional being attacked, being able to rupture the relationship irrevocably.
In other words friends, trying to make deposits in the emotional bank accounts of the people we love, our friends, colleagues and not to unknown persons, this will result in an increase in the welfare of our relationships and greatly promote this aspect your life and that of others. Emotional bank withdrawals are inevitable, we are human beings, we make mistakes, make mistakes, we say wrong things, do things that we regret …. but as soon as you can run! and make your emotional bank deposits, immediately compensate all you’ve been making withdrawals from that account so special, that you loved so much matter but that somehow you been running over your actions, words or omissions. I have the habit in my house with my husband and daughters, after having made a mistake which I consider an emotional withdrawal from that account, immediately offset by at least five acts of love withdrawal, offset by gestures, information, immediate action to let you know when another I’m sorry, I care, I’m wrong and sincerely want to start again, this is important to point out, if your repentance is sincere and your actions are manipulative, your account is overdrawn immediately, lying and manipulation are not place in this process. Let him know the other that you love him, show him, and consider whether the person is visual, kinesthetic or auditory, because if not, the deposit will not be recognized even if you have been doing. Let them know you care about the other, with details, with a flower, with a delicious meal, with a sincere touch with a letter of apology, but please do not forget that the balance always, always give you positive, with an surplus of positive strokes so great that when you’re wrong, the withdrawal does not make a dent in your relationships. TUGS MARIA Economist Human Resources Specialist Group Coaching